journeytosubmit asked: My wife now calls our relationship a cuddling relationship. She is happy with sex with her boyfriend, but has found our trying to be mediocre. She says he knows her body, is aggressive in stripping her naked and taking her as soon as they meet and pleases her very well. She doesn't refuse me sex, but doesn't engage. She wants me to be more obedient. We tried going back to a normal lifestyle earlier in the year but it didn't work well. Do you feel once you've chosen you need to embrace it?
My wife always says to me that the moment she feels that our lifestyle is compromising our relationship, she would go back to a “normal” marriage immediately, without any regrets or doubts.
Our vision is that our marriage is the cornerstone of our life. The cuckolding and open relationship lifestyle is a diversion, a recreational pastime, something we do to have fun in a different way but that should not compromise what really matters to us: our marriage.
wbryon99 asked: Cuckolding is just the way a woman acts right before she dumps you for someone else. I am in that camp now and it sucks buddy. Find a different fantasy.
I’m sorry to hear your fantasy ruined your marriage but just because it happened to you it doesn’t mean it will happen every time to everybody.
Open marriage is not a recipe for a long lasting relationship for sure, but monogamy isn’t either.
Does cuckolding put your marriage at a higher risk of failing? I don’t have any statistics to prove it either way but for sure what puts your marriage at risk is to not be honest to each other, regardless of your relationship openness.
At least this is my experience.
I wish you all the best.
michmanblr asked: love the blog - i see the relationship is wife led. Was this a desire of yours also - or she led you to that - if you wanted to be with her? i dated a girl in college that i had a relationship like this - it was arousing in the humiliation yet empowering that she was very happy and shared everything with me.
Glad to hear you like the blog.
The relationship with my wife became female-led quite naturally. I am submissive by nature, always liked the feeling of being under someone else’s control and had these fantasies for as long as I remember.
My wife is more dominant, always has been without actually knowing it. I helped her realize her true nature and come to terms with her difficulties about her dominant attitude. She always had guilty feelings about that because “good girls” don’t behave like that :-)
Sometimes she is still unease about the wife-led marriage but she is enjoying the many perks this lifestyle gives: sexual freedom, obedient husband, sense of control.
While I know she will never push this lifestyle to the maximum, it is still great to be able to share my fantasies with her and live some of them together.
zhaf5525 asked: where are you from
From your house go right, after the traffic light, first street on the left…
You asked in a post back in Feb. to send you things telling what wives are up to. First let me say that other than four or five mercy blowjobs in 2009, I haven’t had any form of sex with my wife since sometime in Aug. of 2008. My wife however usually has up to four steady boyfriends and, due to her ad in an online sex site, quite a few one night stands. I don’t know her exact count (don’t know if she does either) but I would guess she’s cuckolded me with 250 to 300 men. It may even be a lot more than that. I’ve had no sex outside our marriage other than fluffing her lovers when allowed or being put on hands and knees by a few of her lovers while they deposited a load of cum deep in me to be sure I understood my position in the relationship.